Have you ever noticed that every time something goes wrong you tend to blame external factors? For example, if people go to the Box as if they were in Victoria Station, they are blamed as people who don’t want to commit themselves or it is fault of the competitors that takes away customers or who knows whatever external cause. The reality is that the first to blame, as long as it is useful, is ourselves. I hold this because I do not believe in blaming as much as finding solutions for often punishing someone does not solve the problem that has been created.
I will now try in every way not to venture on the path of the law of cause and effect, even if in the end it all comes down to that, but I would like to express my point of view without having to resort to it and with concepts that are simpler and more comprehensible to most.
Throwing on others the responsibility for our misadventures is a widespread practice which not only doesn’t lead to any result but uselessly disperses energies that could instead be addressed in a more useful way. In fact, we tend to identify an “enemy” and then fight it, but in my opinion, this kind of attitude is deviant and does not lead to anything good but to a growing climate of hatred and resentment that will inevitably backfire in the end. In this way we end up losing sight of our main goal which should be making things work regardless of the conditions that odds conditions.
A different attitude could be to ask ourselves how what disturbs us could have happened and if by chance we too are not jointly responsible. We’ll find out that in most cases, if something didn’t work, it’s because we weren’t able to make it work.
I know it is difficult to admit having made a mistake, but there can be many causes, starting from having underestimated a situation to being aware of not being able to manage it, passing through not being able to involve the right people so that what we thought should happen, it really happened.
Generally, when something happens, for better or for worse, it is not always the cause of one but of all those who are involved which, in one way or another, have made it happen. Taking note of this, it does not even make sense to rave or be discouraged when it is probably more useful and wise to find a way to fix the situation.
It is therefore better to find a way to turn that situation into a favor, perhaps after having understood what has been done, voluntarily or not to provoke it and trying to make it happen no longer. Obviously all this must be done with measure and intelligence, without blaming ourselves, otherwise we are from scratch, but simply analyzing the facts in a lucid manner and finding solutions. The consumption of time and energy will be the same as that used to get angry but the results will be very different.